Wednesday, 17 July 2013

Undefined...

Most people have had one of those awkward undefined relationships in there life.  If you haven’t you are lucky, have really good communication skills, and aren’t afraid to ask questions and be upfront.  Good for you! Seriously! When it comes to questioning relationships I am a huge scaredy-cat.  No matter how comfortable I am with a person and how confident I am that they wont take my questions the wrong way, I still have a hard time questioning the situation.  I know I’m not the only one that feels this way.  Some people don’t like to ask questions because they are afraid of an unexpected or unpleasant answer.  I on the other hand, am afraid of looking like the “crazy girl” or the “clingy girl” with wild expectations and I am afraid of getting an answer I “want to hear,” rather than the truth. I know it sounds ridiculous but some people have a weird way of interpreting things when it comes to relationships.

News Flash: Girls like to be sure of things.  We like clearly defined lines and boundaries.  We like to know if we are on the same page.  We like to know if things are exclusive or if we are going to have to share with someone else. We like to know what we’re supposed to tell people if they ask.  We like to know what is acceptable in public.


There are so many different kinds of relationships out there that it can be very hard to tell what kind you are in.  It’s not always as simple as “single” or “in a relationship” anymore. Now things like “seeing each other” and “friends with benefits” exist.  And then there are “complicated circumstances” like careers or distance or family that keep the relationship undefined.  Are there lines and boundaries to be crossed in any of there types of relationships? What is and isn’t ok? Am I more into this than you are?  There is so much grey, its just crazy.  Some one really need to write a rule book about these things. 

Hello Summer!

Alright so I have been really bad at posting anything since I have been home.  I mean it’s summer and I’m busy living life while I have the free time.  Aside from working a lot I have been going out with friends and hanging out with my family.

Last month was really crazy when the flood hit, but we are all working together to get everything back to normal.  My uncle is still dealing with some water damage in his basement but the rest of my family and friends managed to stay safe and dry.  We have dealt with flooding before, but not nearly to this extent. Seeing our city come together to help out neighbors and strangers through effort of physical labour and donations makes me a proud citizen.  I was unable to help out with the cleanup efforts throughout the city but I did get to work an event to raise money for flood relief.  This event alone raised $25,000 for the Red Cross Flood Relief Fund.

The flood came two weeks before the 101st Calgary Stampede, and despite doubts and some negative views about letting the event go ahead, the show went on.  Along with the original theme of Stampede 101, the Greatest Outdoor Show on Earth also presented their “Hell or High Water” fundraiser.  T-shirts with the slogan “Hell or High Water” were made and sold online and during the ten days of  the Stampede to raise money for flood relief.  The goal of the fundraiser was to raise money, as well as the spirits of the people looking forward to the annual event.  After the flood there was no doubt the Stampede would go on, and with the help of city workers and volunteers the event went on as is had in years past.  Through T-shirt sales the “Hell or High Water” campaign raised $2.1 million for Red Cross Flood Relief. 

After helping out my city, I was able to attend the 101st Calgary Stampede. This stampede week was a little different for me as I acted as a spectator to events I had been a part of for 6 years.  The last 2 years I was part of the Stampede Showband and spent the 10 Days of Stampede performing on the grounds several times every day.  Although I was unable to participate in the band this year I was able to experience being a part of a captive audience.  I was also able to experience the thrill of the midway games and rides, as well as the Stampede night life lit up by bright lights and fireworks.  I was also able to share this new experience with a very good friend of mine.  She came out for a visit and had a taste of Stampede, which she really enjoyed. 


Now that the craziness from the flood has died down and Stampede is over, I can get back to normal everyday life.  I am also starting to get ready for school in the fall.  I have found a place to live and a great roommate.  I have also registered for my courses and its going to be a busy year.  For now I am back to work, back to relaxing with friends and back to soaking up the summer while it lasts. 

Tuesday, 7 May 2013

May: Summertime and Country Music

Woohoo its May!  Spring is in full swing and summer is almost here! I have already been able to pull out my shorts a few times.  I'm in full summer prep mode this month by watching my favourite summer movie and listening to my favourite summertime music.

I watch a lot of Rom-Coms in the summer because they make me happy.  I've seen a bunch of cute movies lately.
Movies: This Means War, What's your Number, Safe Haven, Crazy Stupid Love

When summer comes around I listen to A LOT of country music.  I've finally learned to use YouTube to my advantage.  Yippy!
This is the music I have been living my life to the past few weeks.  It's all country because that what I love :)
Music: Summertime and Country Music

My Pinning this month has also been inspired by summer.  Most pins are summer outfits and hair styles as well as light summer recipes.
http://pinterest.com/katileenjae/
Check out: "i wear what i want" and "being pretty"


Thats all for this month's "Everything I like!"  I haven't had too much spare time, but thats what I filled it with.  :)

Sunday, 14 April 2013

The "Perfect" Date


Everybody has an idea of their perfect date. Usually these ideas blossom from our favourite movie, TV shows or books.  The long walk on the beach, the good conversation and the perfectly placed kiss at sunset, dressing to the nines and going for a fancy dinner, or just getting cozy by the fire on a warm summer night.  Each of these dates will of course have the perfect music playing in the background at just the right moments and everything will just seem too perfect for it to be reality.  That’s because it is!  Life is completely unscripted and ideas of perfection based on movies will almost always be impossible to recreate.

I am not saying I don’t have my own ideas about that perfect date.  Truth be told I have more than a few ideas floating around but none of them are planned to a tee for 2 reasons
(1) Avoiding disappointment.  I have been on a few dates where things didn’t go as smoothly as they had been planned and someone was left disappointed.   Disappointment then lead to a serious mood killer and well, it didn’t end well. 
(2) Planning is LAME! I like to make things up as I go.  It’s way more fun that way.  It’s also an indication of whether the person you are with is on the same page as you are.  Opposites attract.. but not polar opposites.  Also if they aren’t up to going with the flow every once in a while, they are probably no fun.

My ideas of the perfect date are simple. They have a location and events that make each one just as unique and fun as the last.
The Perfect Date:
~ An evening with ice cream and a walk along a riverbank and through the forest. Finding a spot along the river to look at the stars, laugh and dance.
~ An afternoon on the road with music to sing along to.  A small town to stop for lunch. Exploring the town and the surrounding areas.
~ An evening in with a home cooked meal flowed by movies and popcorn
~ At a theme park going on the biggest roller coasters and every other ride. Eating cotton candy and playing fair games.
~ Hiking to the top of a mountain with a picnic lunch.
~ A night downtown taking in the beauty of the city lights.

The one thing almost everyone wants out of the perfect date is the perfect kiss.  It may come at the beginning of the date, at the end of the date or at any point in between.

Some of my ideas are more planned out than others but none of them are specific.  Once in a  while a it's nice to have a reservation and a plan as something to look forward to.  On any date I want to face challenges with laughter and I don't want to worry about the time.  I want it to be fun and adventurous.

Thursday, 4 April 2013

2 More Days


Blehh! So I have two days of class left in this semester before it’s time to start writing finals.  At this point I have finished learning the course content and the class time I have left will be designated review sessions.  Sometimes these review classes can be helpful, but other times people like to ask simple questions that can be answered by simply opening your text book or looking through you class notes. 
Once classes are finished it’s time to get down to the hard core studying, right?  Yes!  But that only works if you have a forgiving exam schedule that allows you a sufficient amount of time to study for each exam.  This term I am not so fortunate.  I have four of my finals in the first four days of the 2 week exam period and a 7 day break before my last final.  Needless to say, I started studying last week.  I was lucky to be finished  with my midterms and assignments on March 14th,  which gave me more than enough time study while class was still in session.  Although I have used this time to study for my first few exams, I have not been able to get into the “final exam  studying mindset.”  Hopefully by the end of the day on Friday I will be able to get myself in the zone of studying  like a crazy person.
This is not the first time I have had a series of exams like this.  Initially a series like this causes lots of stress, frustration. It also brings up the big question of, “how am I supposed to study for everything in such a short time?”  The most effective way I have found is starting early and switching your subject of focus every day or few days. To ensure I don’t miss studying for any classes, I also like to create a rough schedule of which subjects I am going to study for on certain days.  This allows for enough time to study for each subject and helps to avoid cramming for a subject that may have been pushed aside. We all have exams that require less studying which allows for more time to look at other, more difficult course material.  Once I have gone through all or most of my material, I use the day before my exam to go over everything once, focusing on the areas that are most difficult.
I am no stranger to stress during exam time. When I get into the zone of studying, I am able to focus my attention for hours at a time.  I usually start to stress the day before the exam if I feel like I have to cram.  In the weeks and days before my finals I reduce stress levels by taking breaks to make lunch or dinner and by engaging in some form of exercise.  Exercise for stress relief doesn’t always mean taking an hour out of your study time to go to they gym.  During my final review day I find that leaving my room to go to the library or to walk around the block beneficial in different ways. First it gives your body a break from sitting hunched over a table, allowing it to move.  It also gives your eyes time to relax and your brain time to retain the information that you have been studying.  Giving your mind and body a break form studying is most effective when you focus on what you are doing during the break, rather than worrying about the time you are taking away from study. 
Final exam time is stressful but it’s not the end of the world.  When I feel completely overwhelmed, I take a minute to think about how close I am to being done.  I remind myself that I am in the final push to the end of the year and there is no reason to slow down.  Summer will soon be here and I will be at home enjoying my vacation time.  

Tuesday, 2 April 2013

Easter Sunday Hike



This Easter Sunday, a few friends and I decided to take a hike.  Knox Mountain is perfectly situated on the outskirts of the city and right on the lake.  The mountain has a number of trails that vary in length and difficulty as well as road access that ends at a lookout half way up the mountain.
Adventurously, we decided to start our hike at the bottom of the mountain and take the Apex Trail (one of the easier ones) to the top.  Our trail led us up the mountain through grassy areas and small stands of trees to a lovely little gazebo at the top.  We then ventured around to the other side of the mountain and found a beautiful spot overlooking the water where we sat and enjoyed the view before having to head back down.
When I was younger I used to go out to the mountains with my family.   We would hike up Johnston Canyon and explore other easy mountain trails in the area. I remembered how much  I enjoyed the feeling of being lost in and exploring the forest.  This weekend's outing has made me want to adventure out and explore trails and areas I've never been to.





  

Friday, 29 March 2013

14" Lighter


Alright so yesterday (March 28) was a huge day for my dear friend and roommate.  As some of you may know April is the Canadian Cancer Society’s Daffodil Month for cancer research and awareness.  In support of this, our school hosts an annual Cut for the Cure at the end of March.  This year my roommate decided it was time to part with her long luscious locks that she had been growing out to support cancer research.  She was hoping to do the cut last year but felt she was not emotionally ready for the cut and that she had not done sufficient fundraising for the cause.  She started collecting donations casually throughout the year and more seriously when the school had announced the date of the event.  In total she raised close to $500 and 100% support from her family and friends and she cut and donated 14" of hair!
Cancer is one of the leading killers in Canada.  The majority of people know of someone who has fought or is fighting cancer.  Donations to the Cancer Society will fund ground-breaking research on all types of cancer and provide free information and support services for patients and caregivers.  It will also be used to educate Canadians about cancer prevention and early detection of the disease, and advocate public policies that prevent cancer and help those living with it.  Hair donations (shaved head or minimum of 8 inches cut) are used to make wigs for women and children that have suffered hair loss due to repeated bouts of treatment.
The event put on by our school is an effort to raise further awareness of the prevalence of cancer among Canadians, and to raise money to help the Cancer Society continue its services.  It gives students the opportunity to raise money and cut or shave their hair for the cause and donate for chance to pie your RA.  The event also provides students information on ways to prevent cancer and support someone in their life that may be suffering from the disease. 



I would never be able to lose all that hair.  This girl is AMAZING!

We have all lost someone to cancer.  For more information or to donate visit the Canadian Cancer Society online and click DONATE!